Eating Disorders Definition

MOTIVATION, PATIENCE, AND HOPE

Try not to think of the process of recovery as giving up your eating disorder, but rather as getting yourself back, or maybe even finding your real self for the first time. 

Recovery from an eating disorder is one of the hardest things you will ever do. There are three crucial ingredients that will help you get started and stick with it. The first of our 8 Keys is about those three ingredients motivation, patience, and hope. You will undoubtedly experience varying degrees of motivation, patience, and hope throughout the recovery process. There will be times when you lose motivation, run out of patience, or can’t find any hope. Like happiness, these feelings do not just come and stick around of their own accord, but there are things you can do to help establish and hang onto them during this process. Key 1 is designed to explore and work on ways to do just that.

Motivation = Forces Determining Your Behavior, Incentive, Reason

We have rarely met clients who are initially totally ready and willing to stop their eating disorder behaviors. All our clients, probably like you, have some ambivalence, and this ambivalence affects motivation. Thankfully, lack of motivation does not mean you can’t get well, but it does present a challenge to be dealt with and hurdles to overcome. Dealing with your ambivalence is part of the recovery process. Lack of motivation is not a weakness; we understand it and consider it a big part of our work as eating disorder therapists. It is our job to help motivate you and deal with the ambivalence we know is there. We also know it might be hard or confusing for you and your loved ones to understand your lack of motivation and ambivalence to recover. There aren’t many life-threatening illnesses where the person suffering is afraid to get well. It’s hard to make sense of it sometimes, and for others to understand that, as bad as it seems, there are parts that feel safe, familiar, and even good to you. Hopefully, as you explore and work through the secrets, you will begin to understand your own ambivalence better and as a result, you will be able to help the people you care about understand it better as well.

LOOKING AT MY MOTIVATION

What motivated me to pick up, purchase, or read this secrets?

What motivates me to want to get better?

Sometimes, when you write down and look over the reasons you want to get better, it helps to clarify

your motivation. But, since there is most likely ambivalence or fear arising in you as well, it can also make it hard to understand why, if you have all these reasons to get well, you have not done so. Why do you seem to get in your own way? There are of course a myriad of reasons that bring about ambivalence and affect your motivation. One of the analogies we use to help people understand this dynamic is the syndrome that traps people in an abusive relationship.

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