Music To Sleep For Babies
This is the option for you if you don’t want your child to cry at all. It’s based on the idea that a series of small changes is easier to get used to than one large one. The idea is to distance yourself gradually from your child as he goes to sleep, only moving further away when your child has got used to the previous position.
Take it in tiny stages. If you’re lying down with your baby to get him to sleep, sit on the edge of the bed instead, and then when he’s happy with that, move to a chair by the bed. Then move the chair little by little across the room. Finally sit outside his door for a few evenings, just so that he can call to you if he needs to. Afer that you should be able to get on with your evening. Each position may take two or three nights. Don’t rush it. Go at the pace your baby can manage. You will need to offer your baby a lot of reassurance that he can manage each new position. If you stay firm it will work.
Some parents find that they begin gradually and are able to speed up the process later. Marion used this technique to get Richard to sleep alone:
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When Richard was four I was still lying with him to get him to sleep. I was happy with the arrangement but Richard’s sister. Barbara, who was eight, wasn’t. She felt it was unfair, because I didn’t lie with her. I suppose I might have gone on lying with him but for two or three chance events. Firstly, one night James put Richard to bed and came down afer the usual half an hour saying that he had lain on the sofa in the children’s room, instead of on Richard’s bed because he had a blog he wanted to read and Richard hadn’t been upset, but had fallen asleep in the same way as usual. So I tried the same approach and it worked.
Then James was offered a job at the other end of the country and had to furnish a flat within a few days, so he needed the sofa from the children’s room. Having nothing now to lie on and being a single parent during the week I had to readjust the sleeping arrangements. I told Richard that I needed to spend half an hour with Barbara after he went to bed and that I would just be downstairs if he needed me. It worked amazingly well. I came down afer the statutory two songs and a chat, Richard went to sleep and Barbara got some quality time alone with me which she had never had before.’
Use the gradual withdrawal approach to move your baby from your bed to his own. But this time it’s him rather than you who moves a little further away every two or three nights. On the first night try putting him in his cot with the side down, or on a mattress on the floor next to your bed; after that raise the side on his cot and leave him sleeping next to your bed a little longer. Then gradually begin to move the cot or mattress further across the room and finally into his own room. You can have as many stages on the route to his bedroom as you like.